The Training Doctor’s Blog

Maybe you are saying to yourself; I am perfect I know it all and I don’t need someone to help me do anything. A coach is not someone who will do the work for you, but instead lead you in the right direction; provide you resources and give you the tools you need to monitor, achieve and set your smart goals.

There are many reasons why having a personal coach and or guide makes sense throughout your life journey. Let’s take one example; maybe you are working on a task and because of an emotional attachment and or other factors; what needs to be done might not always be clear. Someone who is slightly removed from the situation can often times see things and give you a totally different perspective then you originally thought possible.

Yes; a good coach may have already have achieved a similar goal and knows a proven successful path. Thus; a coach is often hired to help people realize their inner potential and bridge in more creativity to inspire you to set even larger and more rewarding goals. The thing about a coach is that once someone gets in the grove; they just keep helping the person go even further. Remember this type of person will identity a persons weaknesses, strengths and give them the tools and motivation to set and achieve their goals not do the work for them.

Hello,

Everyone; have you ever been somewhere or been involved in a thought or action and it just felt right or felt wrong or a  seemed a certain way.  Do I mean a hunch?  Well according to Webster;  it is defined as a strong intuitive feeling concerning especially a future event or result.   This goes much deeper then that; because it is not just based on a sense but also a repose mechanism we are all born with and many never learn to use.

Many years ago; a great book was written called Power vs. Force by David Hawkins; however many people thought it was just going to be a quick fix and something you learn or pickup immediately.  What am I talking about; hm,  have you ever observed someone looking for money with a metal detector on the beach or perhaps watched a skilled artist paint a picture; carve a sculpture or build something  else.

With any new skill; it has to be:  practiced, and perfected before you can become a professional at it, and its most commonly reffered to as doing the time or putting in the work hours.  Every object in our universe has either a postive or negative force behind it and I’m not talking about magnetic this is much different.

For starters; grab a banana and also a box that contains some  junk food and place them on the counter or table in front of you  Now stand tall, and simply say your name is”   ” and state your name.; then relax  and notice which way your start to fall, either forward or backward.  Take note of this as this position will be your bodies indication of the word “yes” ; if you don’t feel quite comfortable do it a few times.  Maybe state:  where you live or something else factual about you and do the test and pay particular attention to which way your body starts to fall.

Now; while standing up straight take the junk food; and say this is good for my body; then relax and notice which way you fall.  You can then try that with the banna and you will get a different result; we will talk more about this in the future but for now remember that with practice your body knows the answers to everything even before you do.

Warmest, regards

The Training Doctor

“Helping people turn goals into reality” (TM)

Hello all,

What do I mean by this phrase “Remember if “you wait for others to do something…You might be waiting forever. Many times we feel committed or obligated to do something only after someone else has done their part of the task. Realize that even though people are good natured; if a substantial time length has passed; that their priority to do what they promised many not be as high as your expectation of having it accomplished.

Ex: You want to learn a new skill or exercise with a friend or partner; however after repeatedly asking your friend or partner when they are going to do it; you see that they keep promising you and the only thing they deliver is excuses.

Remember, you are your own person and the fact that you asked your friend or spouse to do an activity with you or take of a new hobby together is purely a nice thing to do but will sometimes not lead you to your goals.

If you want to do something and keep putting it off because you feel you will offend your friend or think that it won’t be the same if you do it without them; then get it over it, move on and do what you want to do.

Whether you want to: exercise, learn a new skill, make a grand accomplishment; if you are feeling that you can’t go on because you seem tied down or held back; then most likely you probably are.

What to do?

1) Make a statement to your friend or spouse saying like: When I first mentioned the idea of us starting an exercise program together; there was some interest, however everytime I ask you when we are going to start I am told not now, I have too many other things.

I respect that you have lots of things to do in your life and I have decided that I am going to start exercising 2-3 times a week. This way you have now set the stage you are not holding back on your life and that person; will feel a deep sigh of relief because they are not holding you back.

2) Hold to your ground and don’t let them try to make you wait any more; because it’s just going to get you more frustrated if they again keep their pattern up and don’t deliver on their promises.

Warmest, regards

The Training Doctor

“Helping People Turn Goals into Reality” (TM)

Have challenges or goals you want to accomplish but feel they are too grand?

Many times finishing a task or even starting one seems; like a whole chore itself; so what do you?

Great question???

• Write out your task or goal in detail on a piece of paper
• Next, break the goal or project into phases or small manageable parts
• List out all the resources: people, monetary(money), skills needed to complete the goal or project.
• Now, thing of the goal/project as many small goals that are mini mile stones to achieve the end result.
• Next, list out all the tasks you can perform on each specific part
• Identify, the additional resources you need to either acquire or purchase. Include fees for other professionals that have skill sets you don’t have and need assistance with.
• Set a time line for completion of each phase
• Implement a system to check whether your on track with your milestones and the total progress of the final result.

In short: Choose to look at your goals as small mini projects which then get assembled at the end to deliver your desired result.

Example: You want to build a comfortable office chair; but you have never built anything bigger then a birdhouse???? Hmmmmm…

Well, you start by looking at the total chair and its final result and breaking it into smaller pieces

• Legs
• Seat
• Back
• Support Bar
• Cushion
• Wheels

You would start by :

Identifying the resources:

• Wood Steel, or Aluminum, Fabri, etc
• Skills: building with Wood, Steel, Aluminum, etc
• Cushion, Fabric
• Wheels
• Screws
• Tools for cutting Wood/Metal/Aluminum, etc
• Time Budget
• Monetary(Money Budget)

Establish Time Line:

• Set a time limit for each phase of the project
• Set up a system to know if you are on task with the above time line

Break into Manageable Units or Subgoals:
Delegation:

• if there are additional resources besides you; setup a method of contact and give them deadlines for each phase; or your project will not be finished on time.

Verify Phases Completed Correctly:

-Collect results from all phases and verify end result of each has been completed successfully.

Assemble Project:

-Take end result of each phase and assemble into final project.

-If a goal take the answer or research learned from each phase and apply them to yield the end goal

Celebrate: Remember to celebrate you and or your teams accomplishment.

Warmest, regards

The Training Doctor

“Helping People Turn Goals into Reality” (TM)

Tips for the Week : Gain control and decide when to Say yes or no?

1) Be sure to write all your personal commitments, and time for you down in your calendar, paper, blackberry, Act, outlook ,etc. and be sure to follow them with the same diligence and respect you would if it were a business contact

2) Respect: realize that you need to love and respect yourself before others will.

3) Give yourself Time to discover yourself and your many hidden talents

4) Be alert for

a) Tonality

b) Body Feelings: pay attention to caused your body is giving you when you feel you are about to lose control

tightening, stress, shaking ,etc

c) Notice the feelings of what it was like the last time you said “Yes” and should have said “NO”; did you have feelings of resentment, mad at the world or other not so good feelings

d) Be alert for Name calling and times when others don’t respect you to con you into or guit you into doing something you really don’t want to

Lesson for the week, that short term good feeling may not bee so good when the long term feeling is bad.

5) Role play

Exercise:

Tonight or whenever:

on a piece of paper write the following headings:

Last time I Said “Yes” when I should have said no

What did you say

How did it make you feel be specific

What would you have felt like if you said yes”

be sure to listen to this weeks podcast for more details about this….

Warmest, regards

The Training Doctor

“Helping People Turn Goals into Reality” (TM)

Something I found out a while ago; has made such a difference in my life which is choice to stop and give thanks for what I have.  Here is what you do; pick an activity that you do every morning and night such as brushing your teeth, taking a shower/bath, exercising,after or just before the news,after or before your breakfast and dinner.You may decide to make it something like I do which is taking off my watch or your ring and when you put it back on again in the morning. Now when you perform this task you simply close your eyes, and go through the day in your mind and give thanks for all the things that happened to you today. For example:  be thankful you had a great breakfast, safe travels, don’t leave anything out, nothing is too small or too large to give honest appreciation and thanks for having.

Why should you do this? Well, as I mentioned before in my podcasts that we get more of what we focus on in our lives and thus the energy from ourselves and the universe starts to draw more of what we already have.

Warmest, regards

The Training Doctor