There are many reasons why having a personal coach and or guide makes sense throughout your life journey. Let’s take one example; maybe you are working on a task and because of an emotional attachment and or other factors; what needs to be done might not always be clear. Someone who is slightly removed from the situation can often times see things and give you a totally different perspective then you originally thought possible.

Yes; a good coach may have already have achieved a similar goal and knows a proven successful path. Thus; a coach is often hired to help people realize their inner potential and bridge in more creativity to inspire you to set even larger and more rewarding goals. The thing about a coach is that once someone gets in the grove; they just keep helping the person go even further. Remember this type of person will identity a persons weaknesses, strengths and give them the tools and motivation to set and achieve their goals not do the work for them.

Many times people ask me how do I relax; when I don’t have time to figure out how.

Sure  there are many ways to relax; one way is watch a waterfall and notice every drop as it falls ever so gracefully and peacefully.   Another way to relax is become one with nature and to just sit outside and notice the colors or birds wings, the sensation of the air brushing by you.  When you observe nature; and become of part of what is in the world you will find you rise in a very hightened state that causes you to be more insightfull and aware of things you never knew were possible.

Everyone will be different and you many find that there are things that relax you that may stress others and that’s ok; just be aware of that and respect it. Another great thing you do to relax is to notice the silence around you and just be still as you just notice your breath inhaling and exhaling.

The whole key to relaxation is to just be and not judge anything or anyone and you will enter a realm of peace and tranquility.

Why then is realization stressful for many people? Ah, that’s a great question and its because some put so much emphasis on relaxing that it becomes stressful .   Have you ever had someone say smile or cheese to you before they snap a photograph.  Sure, and what does that word do; cause you to get nervous because you want to have the perfect picture with just the right smile.

You may notice; that the only two times somepeople take a great picture is when they either a) are caught candily or b) just relax.  The more you try to relax the harder it is; just notice whats happening and enjoy it.  Your body will become more relaxed and enter deeper levels of relaxation the more you choose to just let it happen.

So, in summary; it doesn’t matter where you are or what you are doing you can always find something around you that will relax you.  Yes, relaxation takes practice but really all you have to do is just do it and you will become better at it without even knowing why or how.

Warmest, regards

The Training Doctor

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Everyone; have you ever been somewhere or been involved in a thought or action and it just felt right or felt wrong or a  seemed a certain way.  Do I mean a hunch?  Well according to Webster;  it is defined as a strong intuitive feeling concerning especially a future event or result.   This goes much deeper then that; because it is not just based on a sense but also a repose mechanism we are all born with and many never learn to use.

Many years ago; a great book was written called Power vs. Force by David Hawkins; however many people thought it was just going to be a quick fix and something you learn or pickup immediately.  What am I talking about; hm,  have you ever observed someone looking for money with a metal detector on the beach or perhaps watched a skilled artist paint a picture; carve a sculpture or build something  else.

With any new skill; it has to be:  practiced, and perfected before you can become a professional at it, and its most commonly reffered to as doing the time or putting in the work hours.  Every object in our universe has either a postive or negative force behind it and I’m not talking about magnetic this is much different.

For starters; grab a banana and also a box that contains some  junk food and place them on the counter or table in front of you  Now stand tall, and simply say your name is”   ” and state your name.; then relax  and notice which way your start to fall, either forward or backward.  Take note of this as this position will be your bodies indication of the word “yes” ; if you don’t feel quite comfortable do it a few times.  Maybe state:  where you live or something else factual about you and do the test and pay particular attention to which way your body starts to fall.

Now; while standing up straight take the junk food; and say this is good for my body; then relax and notice which way you fall.  You can then try that with the banna and you will get a different result; we will talk more about this in the future but for now remember that with practice your body knows the answers to everything even before you do.

Warmest, regards

The Training Doctor

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In its simplest form; hypnosis is really just relaxation.  I have recently uploaded an article explaining what hypnosis is and also updated some webpaged to explain the states our brain goes trhough such as beta,alpha,theta and delta.  I have also uploaded and 18 minutes how exercise teaching and showing you how to relax .

When we talk about hypnosis??? Why do we need to know or use hypnosis you may be saying….

Oh sure, that’s simple its because our subconscious really is what runs our body.  Hypnosis is a way to get rid of certain blockage that acts as a safety filter so we don’t just collect all sort of useless data in our mind.

In hypnosis; we lift the critical factor and thus things are accepted much more easily and are not judged; however is important for you to know that nothing goes in or stays in that the mind or physical body chooses to reject.

What does that mean??? Simple; we will only do things that we want to do.  We can’t me made to do things we dont’t want to.

Ok, then why did my brother you say act like a chicken or do weird things at a hypnosis show.  Ok, there is one simple reason; your brother really wanted to do those things inside and all hypnosis did was cause them to happen effortlessly.  The hypnotist actually did some suggestibility tests with the audience I bet your brother was one that performed very well..  That is sole reason; why these traveling people do so well; they look for the person or people in the audience that wants to do something.

Wamrest, regards

The Training Doctor

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What do I mean by this phrase “Remember if “you wait for others to do something…You might be waiting forever. Many times we feel committed or obligated to do something only after someone else has done their part of the task. Realize that even though people are good natured; if a substantial time length has passed; that their priority to do what they promised many not be as high as your expectation of having it accomplished.

Ex: You want to learn a new skill or exercise with a friend or partner; however after repeatedly asking your friend or partner when they are going to do it; you see that they keep promising you and the only thing they deliver is excuses.

Remember, you are your own person and the fact that you asked your friend or spouse to do an activity with you or take of a new hobby together is purely a nice thing to do but will sometimes not lead you to your goals.

If you want to do something and keep putting it off because you feel you will offend your friend or think that it won’t be the same if you do it without them; then get it over it, move on and do what you want to do.

Whether you want to: exercise, learn a new skill, make a grand accomplishment; if you are feeling that you can’t go on because you seem tied down or held back; then most likely you probably are.

What to do?

1) Make a statement to your friend or spouse saying like: When I first mentioned the idea of us starting an exercise program together; there was some interest, however everytime I ask you when we are going to start I am told not now, I have too many other things.

I respect that you have lots of things to do in your life and I have decided that I am going to start exercising 2-3 times a week. This way you have now set the stage you are not holding back on your life and that person; will feel a deep sigh of relief because they are not holding you back.

2) Hold to your ground and don’t let them try to make you wait any more; because it’s just going to get you more frustrated if they again keep their pattern up and don’t deliver on their promises.

Warmest, regards

The Training Doctor

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Have challenges or goals you want to accomplish but feel they are too grand?

Many times finishing a task or even starting one seems; like a whole chore itself; so what do you?

Great question???

• Write out your task or goal in detail on a piece of paper
• Next, break the goal or project into phases or small manageable parts
• List out all the resources: people, monetary(money), skills needed to complete the goal or project.
• Now, thing of the goal/project as many small goals that are mini mile stones to achieve the end result.
• Next, list out all the tasks you can perform on each specific part
• Identify, the additional resources you need to either acquire or purchase. Include fees for other professionals that have skill sets you don’t have and need assistance with.
• Set a time line for completion of each phase
• Implement a system to check whether your on track with your milestones and the total progress of the final result.

In short: Choose to look at your goals as small mini projects which then get assembled at the end to deliver your desired result.

Example: You want to build a comfortable office chair; but you have never built anything bigger then a birdhouse???? Hmmmmm…

Well, you start by looking at the total chair and its final result and breaking it into smaller pieces

• Legs
• Seat
• Back
• Support Bar
• Cushion
• Wheels

You would start by :

Identifying the resources:

• Wood Steel, or Aluminum, Fabri, etc
• Skills: building with Wood, Steel, Aluminum, etc
• Cushion, Fabric
• Wheels
• Screws
• Tools for cutting Wood/Metal/Aluminum, etc
• Time Budget
• Monetary(Money Budget)

Establish Time Line:

• Set a time limit for each phase of the project
• Set up a system to know if you are on task with the above time line

Break into Manageable Units or Subgoals:
Delegation:

• if there are additional resources besides you; setup a method of contact and give them deadlines for each phase; or your project will not be finished on time.

Verify Phases Completed Correctly:

-Collect results from all phases and verify end result of each has been completed successfully.

Assemble Project:

-Take end result of each phase and assemble into final project.

-If a goal take the answer or research learned from each phase and apply them to yield the end goal

Celebrate: Remember to celebrate you and or your teams accomplishment.

Warmest, regards

The Training Doctor

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1) Be sure to write all your personal commitments, and time for you down in your calendar, paper, blackberry, Act, outlook ,etc. and be sure to follow them with the same diligence and respect you would if it were a business contact

2) Respect: realize that you need to love and respect yourself before others will.

3) Give yourself Time to discover yourself and your many hidden talents

4) Be alert for

a) Tonality

b) Body Feelings: pay attention to caused your body is giving you when you feel you are about to lose control

tightening, stress, shaking ,etc

c) Notice the feelings of what it was like the last time you said “Yes” and should have said “NO”; did you have feelings of resentment, mad at the world or other not so good feelings

d) Be alert for Name calling and times when others don’t respect you to con you into or guit you into doing something you really don’t want to

Lesson for the week, that short term good feeling may not bee so good when the long term feeling is bad.

5) Role play

Exercise:

Tonight or whenever:

on a piece of paper write the following headings:

Last time I Said “Yes” when I should have said no

What did you say

How did it make you feel be specific

What would you have felt like if you said yes”

be sure to listen to this weeks podcast for more details about this….

Warmest, regards

The Training Doctor

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Does this ever happen to you; people ask you to do things but because of your good nature or respect for them you do things that you wish you would not have gotten roped into. We will be talking a lot about this over the next few pod casts; because sometimes; our mouth just opens and says yes before we even knew what we were doing. Then later on we say; oh how did I let that happen again, or its ok it won’t take me very long. But what you are doing is enabling the other person and they take advantage of your good nature. How to take back your control is what we will be talking about in this series of podcasts.

W hy do you want Control to choose to say Yes/No when that is what you want to say?

1) You will be less tired

2) You will have time for you to do the things that matter to you

3) You will get more respect; which will boost your self esteem

4) People will ask you to do things less and only ask you when they really need it

5) You will learn that you are probably doing other things on auto pilot that you really don’t have to be doing?

Warmest, regards

The Training Doctor

So, it takes me off guard for a moment but when I realize that these people are serious about this I am more then happy to answer their call.  Well Webster first off defines relaxation as a being in a re creative state or a condition when our muscles our totally at rest. Relaxation is also any time that you just enjoy your surroundings and or use as many senses as you have to be able to experience the world in peacefully and non-treating setting.  So, how do we become relaxed or get relaxed. Is there a process to become relaxed; yes there is, but many times this happens so naturally that its as easy as breathing, one breath in and one breath out and so on.

Many people will become relaxed when they choose to distance themselves from a stressful situation or problem.  Others in life don’t relax because they don’t know how and often times leads to serious damage that could have well been overcome if they took just a few minutes a day to practice the art of relaxation.  That’s right I said practice; why do you have to practice.  It makes sense to practice the piano, other skills or routine task so you can be more efficient at them.  But why do you need to practice relaxation.  Well question is what do you have to lose???? Nothing, just everything in the world to gain including better healthy, better relationships, more creatively and the lists goes on and on.

So, now that you understand and proably agree with me that relaxation is important; the reason we pracice it is so we can get to hightened states of awareness and peace in shorter amounts of time.  Thus one who is very good at relaxtion would actually be able to mediate and gain very similar effects a long sleep would have over body; leaving it fully rested and alert with a new perspective.

Througout this blog I am going to be talking about many ways you can relax from those that take just a few minues to others that you may choose to practice longer.  The whole thing is you need to make relaxation a habbit and part of daily or at least your weekly lifestyle.

Relaxation Exercise #:

1)  Pick a location where you can be alone and you won’t be disturbed from any phone calls or other interupptions

2)  Then either sit or lie back in a chair with your feet up and nice an comfortable

3)  Close your eyes

4) Count backwards very slowly frmo 99 -1 ,

5)  Notice the beat of your heart now

6)  I want you to imagine a vacation trip you took that you really enjoyed yourself

7)  And just imagine yourself there

Feel all the great emotions that you felt that day

9) Count backwards from 20-1

10)  After you feel comfortable and ready to get up, open your eyes and enjoy how peaceful you now are

This was just a simple one, but we will do much more on relaxation as this blog evloves.

Warmest, regards

The Training Doctor

Why should you do this? Well, as I mentioned before in my podcasts that we get more of what we focus on in our lives and thus the energy from ourselves and the universe starts to draw more of what we already have.

Warmest, regards

The Training Doctor