Remember if “you” wait for others to do something…..You might be waiting forever???
Sunday, March 2nd, 2008Hello all,
What do I mean by this phrase “Remember if “you wait for others to do something…You might be waiting forever. Many times we feel committed or obligated to do something only after someone else has done their part of the task. Realize that even though people are good natured; if a substantial time length has passed; that their priority to do what they promised many not be as high as your expectation of having it accomplished.
Ex: You want to learn a new skill or exercise with a friend or partner; however after repeatedly asking your friend or partner when they are going to do it; you see that they keep promising you and the only thing they deliver is excuses.
Remember, you are your own person and the fact that you asked your friend or spouse to do an activity with you or take of a new hobby together is purely a nice thing to do but will sometimes not lead you to your goals.
If you want to do something and keep putting it off because you feel you will offend your friend or think that it won’t be the same if you do it without them; then get it over it, move on and do what you want to do.
Whether you want to: exercise, learn a new skill, make a grand accomplishment; if you are feeling that you can’t go on because you seem tied down or held back; then most likely you probably are.
What to do?
1) Make a statement to your friend or spouse saying like: When I first mentioned the idea of us starting an exercise program together; there was some interest, however everytime I ask you when we are going to start I am told not now, I have too many other things.
I respect that you have lots of things to do in your life and I have decided that I am going to start exercising 2-3 times a week. This way you have now set the stage you are not holding back on your life and that person; will feel a deep sigh of relief because they are not holding you back.
2) Hold to your ground and don’t let them try to make you wait any more; because it’s just going to get you more frustrated if they again keep their pattern up and don’t deliver on their promises.
Warmest, regards
The Training Doctor
“Helping People Turn Goals into Reality” (TM)