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Tips for the Week : Gain control and decide when to Say yes or no?

1) Be sure to write all your personal commitments, and time for you down in your calendar, paper, blackberry, Act, outlook ,etc. and be sure to follow them with the same diligence and respect you would if it were a business contact

2) Respect: realize that you need to love and respect yourself before others will.

3) Give yourself Time to discover yourself and your many hidden talents

4) Be alert for

a) Tonality

b) Body Feelings: pay attention to caused your body is giving you when you feel you are about to lose control

tightening, stress, shaking ,etc

c) Notice the feelings of what it was like the last time you said “Yes” and should have said “NO”; did you have feelings of resentment, mad at the world or other not so good feelings

d) Be alert for Name calling and times when others don’t respect you to con you into or guit you into doing something you really don’t want to

Lesson for the week, that short term good feeling may not bee so good when the long term feeling is bad.

5) Role play

Exercise:

Tonight or whenever:

on a piece of paper write the following headings:

Last time I Said “Yes” when I should have said no

What did you say

How did it make you feel be specific

What would you have felt like if you said yes”

be sure to listen to this weeks podcast for more details about this….

Warmest, regards

The Training Doctor

“Helping People Turn Goals into Reality” (TM)

Hello everyone,

Does this ever happen to you; people ask you to do things but because of your good nature or respect for them you do things that you wish you would not have gotten roped into. We will be talking a lot about this over the next few pod casts; because sometimes; our mouth just opens and says yes before we even knew what we were doing. Then later on we say; oh how did I let that happen again, or its ok it won’t take me very long. But what you are doing is enabling the other person and they take advantage of your good nature. How to take back your control is what we will be talking about in this series of podcasts.

W hy do you want Control to choose to say Yes/No when that is what you want to say?

1) You will be less tired

2) You will have time for you to do the things that matter to you

3) You will get more respect; which will boost your self esteem

4) People will ask you to do things less and only ask you when they really need it

5) You will learn that you are probably doing other things on auto pilot that you really don’t have to be doing?

Warmest, regards

The Training Doctor